Eulogy Exercise: Clarifying What Truly Matters in Your Life
Imagining what one would want to be remembered for to identify core values.

Introduction:

This exercise is a powerful way to help you reflect on what truly matters to you—your deepest values—and how you want to show up in your life.

Step 1: Creating the Scene

Picture a gathering of people who meant the most to you—family, friends, colleagues, people whose lives you’ve touched in big or small ways. They have all come together to celebrate your life and share what you meant to them.

Imagine yourself in this scene, not as a participant, but as an observer. You are simply watching and listening.

Step 2: Listening to the Eulogies

One by one, the people closest to you step forward to speak.

  • What do they say about you?

  • What kind of person do they remember you as?

  • What qualities or values did they see in you?

  • How did you treat others?

  • What kind of impact did you have on their lives?

Try to imagine the details. Maybe someone talks about how you always made people feel valued and heard. Maybe another person shares how your kindness, humor, or determination inspired them.

What do you want to hear them say?

Step 3: Writing Your Own Eulogy

Now, take a few minutes to write down what you would want your eulogy to say.

You might start with something like:

"Today, we are here to remember [your name]. They were a person who truly lived by their values, someone who..."

Consider including:

  • The qualities that defined you.

  • The values you stood for.

  • The relationships that mattered most.

  • The legacy you left behind—how you influenced or helped others.

There is no right or wrong way to do this—just write from the heart.

Step 4: Reflecting on Your Life Right Now

Now, take a step back and reflect:

  • Are you currently living in alignment with this vision?

  • If your life ended today, would your eulogy reflect who you truly are and what you care about?

  • Are there any changes you’d like to make in how you spend your time, how you treat others, or how you pursue your goals?

This exercise isn’t about guilt or regret—it’s about clarity. It’s a way to reconnect with what truly matters and ensure that you’re living in a way that reflects your values.

Step 5: Turning Values into Action

Now that you have a clearer picture of the life you want to lead, let’s think about how to bring that vision into your daily life.

  • What small actions can you take this week to embody your values?

  • How can you strengthen your relationships and show up for the people who matter most?

  • What habits or patterns might you need to shift to become more of the person you want to be?

Even small shifts—like making more time for loved ones, practicing patience, or taking a step toward a meaningful goal—can help you start living in alignment with your values today.